Are You Struggling to Reclaim Your Life After Experiencing Loss?
Do You Feel Constantly Affected By Unshakeable Grief?
If you are suffering to make sense of your life after experiencing loss, you are not alone. If you have lost a loved one, you might feel like inescapable sadness is running your life. Maybe you find yourself shocked or in disbelief about your loss. You might feel guilt, believing you could have done something to change the situation, or even anger at yourself or others involved in your loss. You probably feel insecure and helpless, and might experience aches and pains, nausea, or even changes in weight. You may be prone to uncontrollable crying or unable to sleep.
Grief can also manifest after the death of a pet, while trying to deal with a break-up or loss of employment, or even after your children have left the nest. If you feel a sense of yearning for what you’ve lost, and if you can’t seem to bounce back to your normal self, you are likely grieving.
The aftermath of a serious loss can make it difficult for you to go about your everyday life.
The good news is that you do not have to suffer alone, and you do not have to struggle forever. If you want to move forward but don’t know how, I want to help you sort through your feelings and find a measure of relief from your pain.
How Can I Begin to Heal?
I’m Cathy Neville, and I specialize in loss and grief counseling. I offer compassion, empathy, and unconditional acceptance while building a positive, trusting, client-counselor alliance. I believe that working with someone who will not judge you and who can empathize with your situation enables you to embrace your grief, which is necessary to heal.
Together, we will explore the stages of grief. I will help you understand why you might feel the ways you do, and help you realize that there is no one way to grieve. Finding clarity and explanations for your thoughts and behavior will allow you to find acceptance. Further, just having someone to open up to will help you reclaim your life, free of the stressors of all-encompassing grief.
“If I seek help, I’m afraid it will be a sign of personal weakness.”
This is an extremely common worry, but nothing could be further from the truth! Seeking help from a trained professional for your mental well-being is no different than seeking the help of a physician for physical ailments. As a therapist, I have been trained through several years of education and bring my own life experience into the mix. I know the pain you feel and I want to help you overcome it, not increase it! In all reality, seeking help to address problems and examine painful feelings is a sign of courage, not weakness.
“Can’t I just talk to a friend to deal with my pain?”
Yes, you can seek help from family and friends. Sometimes that will be enough. But often, friends and family are unable to be objective, and they lack the training necessary to address the psychological dynamics of the grieving process. Furthermore, in a counseling relationship, the focus is solely on you. An experienced grief counselor can provide you with tools necessary to cope and move forward in the grieving process. You also do not have to worry about burdening a therapist; it’s their job to listen.
“What if talking about my problem only makes it worse?”
On the contrary, opening yourself to previously suppressed concerns and worries helps dissipate the pain and intensity, and will help you better understand your problems. Counseling facilitates and provides a better forum for good decision-making skills. Furthermore, the emotional pressure caused by keeping our thoughts and feelings to ourselves is also a risk to our physical health. I believe we must find balance our minds and our bodies in order to be wholly healthy.
“I am afraid that finding healing for my grief will be akin to letting go of what I’ve lost. I’m not sure I want to do that.”
It is normal to worry that healing might feel like forgetting. However, seeking grief counseling is not about having to let go of what you’ve lost. It is about getting help and learning how to cope with your loss. Grief counseling does not mean forgetting or ignoring what you once had. It is about learning how to accept the loss and eventually adjust to a life without your loved one.
“I’ve tried therapy before and it just didn’t seem to work.”
Luckily, this does not mean that a different method or another try will not produce results.
Different counselors have different personalities and different approaches to therapy. Sometimes you and the therapist just don’t click. This could mean you were unable to open up and engage with your therapist for any number of reasons. It is important to find a therapist you trust: one with whom you feel comfortable with sharing your feelings. If you are willing to put in the effort and give yourself another chance to heal, you will enter a phase of greater acceptance.
Why Is Working With You Different?
I am a licensed professional in counseling, specializing in grief and loss. I received much of my training in grief and loss through working with South Texas Children’s Bereavement Center, providing grief counseling to both children and their parents.
I have the ability to establish rapport and trust with diverse clientele through my ability to imagine myself in their world. Clients like the way I find and point out their strengths instead of dwelling on their deficiencies. I show them how to use those strengths in solving their problems and facilitate change in their life. I try to first point them toward using what has worked for them in the past, enabling them to see they DO have the tools to solve their own problems.
I believe in perseverance even in the hardest cases—I never give up on my clients. Additionally, I am constantly dedicated to observing the latest research in an attempt to find what may work for my clients. With years of life experience, I know what it feels like to hurt and what it takes to heal.
What Do I Do Next?
If you are ready to process your grief in ways that will lead to a healthier you, I am ready to help. I offer a free initial 15 minute consultation if you’d like to learn more about what I can offer you.
If you feel ready to set up a full appointment, you have a couple of options:
You can call me at 210-286-0810,
Or go to Contact and Directions and either fill out contact sheet to request that I call or e-mail you,
Or go to Make Appointment to see the times I am available and set your own appointment.
I look forward to hearing from you.